What to say to someone who is ill

Bruce Feiler, who once suffered from bone cancer, offers some advice.

First, what NOT to say.
1. WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP? Most patients I know grow to hate this, because it puts the burden back on them. Instead, just do something. And the more mundane the better, because those are the tasks that add up. Clean out my fridge, replace my light bulbs, unpot my dead plants, change my oil. 2. MY